A Leadership Question: Where Have You Been

Posted on: October 12th, 2018 by Jen Mueller

“Be seen to the point people don’t remember the space without you.”

It’s the piece of advice I offer most often to entrepreneurs and to young professionals who want to know how to make their mark in the world and be seen as credible.

Here’s what it means:

  • Commit to showing up consistently, whether it’s showing up to work, showing up in your marketing or social media efforts, or showing up at networking events.
  • Be yourself when you show up. You’re already a rock star, you don’t need to try and be a superhero.
  • Cultivate relationships that allow you to be missed.
  • Enjoy hearing the question: “Where have you been?”

As a young sports broadcaster I didn’t want to stand out. I didn’t want people to notice the woman in the locker room. I didn’t want to make waves. I didn’t want to be seen.

And then, I realized that being asked the question “Where have you been?” is the highest compliment I could receive because it’s another way of saying “I miss you.”

Developing those kind of relationships are vital in my job as a sports broadcaster, but they’re equally important in your line of work. So make sure you’re seen, known and missed in your space.

You can hear the entire 10-minute talk right here if you’d like.


VIDEO: Increase Your Influence – Have Conversations Before They Count

Posted on: October 10th, 2018 by Jen Mueller

“Why didn’t you ask me?”

“How come no one wanted my opinion?”

Have you ever found yourself asking those questions? Wondering why colleagues didn’t seek you out for ideas, feedback, advice, opinions or insights?

If so, then here’s the real question you need to answer: “What would lead them to believe you have ideas, feedback, advice, opinions or insights?”

Be willing to talk to colleagues before it counts. Build relationships using small talk because that’s how colleagues get to know who you are as a person and the type of insights you can provide. Don’t get upset when no one randomly walks up to your desk to ask for an opinion. (P.S. do you randomly walk up to people you don’t know well and ask for their opinion? I didn’t think so.)

Increase your influence and your contributions at work by initiating conversations before they count.

Jen Mueller is a badass at business communication not to mention a speaker, author and sports broadcaster. She knows that talent and skills aren’t enough to get you where you want to go in your career. You need good one-on-one communication skills, which is why she’s written the book on how to do that. Purchase The Influential Conversationalist on Amazon. 

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Talking Seahawks: What’s Your Impression

Posted on: October 5th, 2018 by Jen Mueller

To be clear, I’m not asking for your impression of the Seahawks. I’m asking what impression you make on your colleagues – before you think they’ve noticed anything.

You can’t wait for a big moment to show colleagues what you can really do. They’ve already figured out what you’re capable of… or at least they think they’ve figured it out.

Consider how this works in a locker room, that’s where players make their first impression with coaches and teammates. The way they show up for work gives coaches and teammates insight into their work ethic, practice habits and overall demeanor long before they ever get on the field and get a chance to put up number or deliver results.

Here’s what Seahawks head coach Pete Carroll said about wide receiver, Jaron Brown:

“From the first week he was with us he just seemed to have a handle on what it takes, and what’s important, and how you do the job and how you work. He’s never wavered. He’s just been that the whole time. His performance has followed.”

That’s an NFL head coach talking about a wide receiver, but it could just as easily be your manager talking to you. Or could it?

How do you show up?

How aware are you that colleagues (teammates) notice how you approach your job?

How much do your actions impact what THEY believe you’re capable of?

If your colleagues aren’t impressed by the impression you make, they’re not going to give you the chance to impress them with your productivity or results.

The way you show up in daily interactions gives colleagues a first impression. Show up consistently in small talk and in the way you talk to people. Becoming an Influential Conversationalist means you’re in position to show not just your consistency but leadership characteristics. If you don’t believe me – read the book. And keep reading here for more parallels between the Seahawks and business communication.

Jen Mueller is the sideline reporter for the Seattle Seahawks. Yes, she talks a lot of football, but she also hears a lot of business lessons buried in the weekly press conference and interviews. Throughout the season she’ll provide a few of those insights and demonstrate how sports conversations can improve business communication. Follow Talk Sporty to Me on Instagram for even more business communication strategies and ways to make sports talk useful in business settings. 

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