The Influential Conversationalist

Posted on: August 10th, 2018 by Jen Mueller

Think about the last time you asked a colleague for advice or feedback.

How did that conversation come about? Why did you choose that colleague for the conversation?

If you’re anything like me (and most people) you probably picked someone you already have a relationship with and someone you talk to on a regular basis. After all, if you’re asking for feedback or advice you want that person to have some knowledge of who you are and perspective on the situation. You wouldn’t seek out the person you rarely talk to.

Let that sink in for a minute.

If you wouldn’t go ask someone you never talk to for advice, no one is going to randomly seek you out for yours. If you want to be part of big conversations, influential conversations and the kind of conversations that get you noticed at work you need to develop relationships with your colleagues. The kind of relationship that includes regular small talk and banter.

If no one at work is coming to make small talk with you, they’re also not coming to talk to you about your next big career opportunity or to seek your input on a big decision.

Small talk is not optional. It is required for building relationships with colleagues and getting to where you want to be in your career. Click To Tweet

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